Hello lovey ones! I hope your week is going fah-bulous. I am personally so thrilled tomorrow is Friday (Fri-YAY). Today I wanted to continue on to my previous post about Knowing Your Dealbreakers. Dealbreakers are things that you know you absolutely do NOT want. I also think of my dealbreakers as things I would not want for my future children and family.
Deal makers are the opposite of that. What are the things you want in your ideal future partner. This part is definitely more fun to think about, too. Be serious about what you most desire in a partner. What will help fulfill you, and your lifestyle, and your future. Also, do not think your deal makers need to be what your friends, your mom, or your sister think. Remember that each of us is looking for our own Mr. Right! My Mr. Right and my sister or best friend’s Mr. Right are (thankfully) very different!
I recommend choosing five deal makers. If your list is too long, you will never be happy. Remember no one is perfect, but just like when we picked 5 deal breakers (things you absolutely cannot handle in a relationship), there are things you can look for too as you are out dating and mingling with other people. I know my deal makers include adventurous, kind, likes to laugh/makes me laugh, likes to be outside, and hardworking. I am so lucky because that is what I have found!
A great friend of mine told me that you also need to then think about what, where and who is my dream partner looking for? Now I am not sitting here telling you to change for a man. You are undoubtedly wonderful. However, if you are always at the club with two drinks in your hand, and you want a homebody to cuddle on the couch with, you may be going about this the wrong way! It’s not about becoming someone you are not. It is about putting yourself in the realm of the kind of person you are looking for. I have seen countless girls become upset that there dream guy is not found at the bar or house party. On the flip side, I have seen a friend want a really outgoing partner, but they only go to to their house and the bookstore.
What you seek is seeking you. Your dream partner is out there. Once you know what you want (or don’t want), you are that much closer to finding them. In the meantime, you are many steps away from settling for less than you deserve. Never, ever, settle.